Are You and Your Partner Struggling With Your Difficulty to Conceive a Child?

Has your inability to get pregnant left you and your partner feeling hopeless? Perhaps you’re struggling to process the loss of a miscarriage, and feel that you don’t have anyone you can turn to for help. Maybe you or your partner have been diagnosed as infertile, and your incapability to conceive naturally is causing strain on your relationship. Perhaps you are a same-sex couple that’s having difficulty determining which fertility options are right for you. Do you find that talking to your friends or family about your pain is difficult because they don’t understand what you’re going through?

Coping with fertility issues can be lonely and painful. It’s an incredibly private matter that many couples face. It’s not uncommon to feel uncomfortable sharing your experiences, especially because society assumes that all couples can conceive a child. Men often feel embarrassed when they receive news about a low sperm count, and don’t want to talk about it. Women often feel insecure and confused when they realize their eggs are not viable because getting pregnant is supposed to be simple and natural.

Furthermore, mourning the loss of a miscarriage can be extremely painful and confusing. The possibility of what could have been can be haunting. A miscarriage and other fertility issues can elicit feelings that can be extremely difficult to manage on your own. If you’re struggling to cope with not being able to have a child, I can help. I provide a safe, empathetic space for you and your partner to understand, process and heal your pain.

Fertility Issues Are More Common Than You May Think

Almost all couples that try to have a baby experience difficulty. Although the stereotype is that getting pregnant is the easiest, most natural thing in the world, the reality is that most fertile couples have to try for months, even years to get pregnant. Nearly 30 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. And, many couples will never be able to conceive naturally.

Although fertility issues are incredibly common, they are also tough to talk through. With images of your peers posting pictures of their newborn on social media, your co-workers reminiscing about their family weekend get-away and children everywhere you go, it can feel impossible to process the pain and emptiness you feel about not being able to have a child naturally.

Fertility issues can also cause strain in your relationship with your partner. Feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness can interrupt you and your partner’s ability to communicate and be happy together. If you and your partner are struggling to cope with your inability to naturally conceive, or are mourning a miscarriage, fertility counseling can help you heal. An experienced and compassionate therapist can help you learn how to communicate your experience and experience relief from confusion and pain.

Fertility Counseling Can Help You and Your Partner Heal

Fertility counseling can be very effective in helping you and your partner better understand your emotions, communicate them in healthy productive ways and feel more positive overall. Having a safe space to talk about your difficulties and sadness without the fear of judgment can be liberating. In sessions, I will provide you with techniques you can use to effectively communicate your distress without feeling inadequate, alone or misunderstood. You can learn how to engage with people that may not understand what you’re going through without feeling uncomfortable, triggered or unsupported. If you’re coping with a miscarriage, fertility counseling can provide you with a space to mourn and process what has happened to you.

Together, we will go through your pregnancy history. Once I understand where you’re coming from and what you’re going through, we will begin our interpersonal work, which will teach you how to refocus and correct your painful thoughts and emotions. You can learn to understand and reframe the assumptions and perceptions you have about those around you so you can stop feeling upset or offended each time the topic of pregnancy comes up in conversation. Fertility counseling can help you shift into a more empowered perception so that you’re no longer overcome by overwhelming negativity.  

It wasn’t until I got pregnant myself that I learned that so many couples struggle with infertility and miscarriages. I believe that 99 percent of couples find pregnancy is not as easy as they originally thought. When couples experience difficulty getting pregnant, they often feel like something is wrong with them. Fertility counseling can help you recognize that nothing is wrong with you. With the guidance of a professional, neutral and caring therapist, you can learn that you’re not alone and that healing is possible.

Although fertility counseling may seem beneficial, you may still have questions and concerns…

Going to therapy isn’t going to help me get pregnant…

It’s true that fertility counseling does not mean you’ll have a baby by the end. However, fertility counseling can help you strengthen your relationship with yourself, your partner and those around you. It can also help you cope and heal with feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness and isolation. Therapy can also help you feel whole again and accept that none of this is your fault. I know that not being able to conceive a child is incredibly difficult and that it’s hard to think about anything else. Although you won’t walk out of fertility counseling with a newborn baby, it can allow you to heal and feel happy again.  

Is my partner welcome to join our fertility counseling sessions?

Your partner is not only welcome, but I encourage that both of you do this work. Because this is an issue you both struggle with, having both of you in session will help open the lines of communication so that you can process your emotional and physical distress together. Not being able to have a child or coping with a miscarriage affects you both tremendously. I encourage that you both enter an empathetic, safe space to explore, heal and grow together.

Fertility Counseling Can Help You Heal

I hope you email me at drruchikukreja@gmail.com to learn more about fertility counseling and my practice.